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Most single boomers say they’re ready to get intimate with a new partner by the third date – a practice so common that it’s been dubbed “The Third Date Rule.” ​​That’s just one of the many

trends in dating for older adults found in the latest “Singles in America” study, released by Match in conjunction with the Kinsey Institute, an esteemed educational research institute that

is part of Indiana University. ​​ Among other key data points for adults ages 59-77: an overall preference for sexual monogamy, a desire to know more about consent and, for many, a sex

drought. ​​“Regarding the new data, I’m kind of hopeful,” says Justin Garcia, an evolutionary biologist and sex researcher who is executive director of the Kinsey Institute and also a

professor with Indiana University’s Department of Gender Studies. “These are things we can think critically about and implement to make our romantic and sexual lives more fulfilling.” ​​

HERE ARE THE CHIEF TAKEAWAYS FOR OLDER ADULTS: ​​ THE THIRD DATE RULE. Sixty-six percent of singles said they were amenable to cuddling by the third date and 58 percent were up for a

make-out session. Roughly one-third reported being comfortable with getting naked, touching each other’s naked bodies, performing and receiving oral sex, having vaginal or anal sexual

intercourse, and discussing their sexual likes and dislikes. ​​ ARE YOU IN THE MOOD? AARP’s exclusive destination just for members has a new sex column where experts answer the questions you

are too embarrassed to ask. Visit AARP’s Members Edition to read the latest column. “Many people give themselves self-imposed rules to guide their behavior in dating,” says Garcia, who

coauthored the book _Evolution of Sexual Behavior_ and has served as a scientific adviser for Match.com since 2010. “We are freer than ever to date and love and be intimate with whomever we

want, but that freedom and openness can lead to a lack of clarity. I think having rules is a good thing. People, especially in dating, can be nervous, anxious, scared, excited. It gives you

a rough goalpost.” ​​ SEX EDUCATION. Forty-three percent of boomers say more sex ed in their younger years would have helped them have healthier and happier relationships today. Two key

missing pieces are that 45 percent said they never learned about how to give or get consent and 49 percent never learned how to talk about sex in general. ​​ “The goal is to make sure people

of all ages have the tools to engage in sex in ways that are safe, consensual and fulfilling,” Garcia says. “It’s never too late to invest in learning about the role of sexuality in our

lives. For older populations, this information is still so important.” ​​ Garcia suggests talking to a medical professional about sex or accessing academic lectures on aging and sex. “People

underestimate the value of stories and articles,” he adds. “If you look for the information, you’ll find it. Don’t be afraid to read the article. Stay informed about how to make sure sex is

still pleasurable and satisfying.” ​​