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JUST JANE: TODAY OUR AGONY AUNT JANE O'GORMAN IS DEALING WITH A NEW ISSUE FROM A DAILY STAR READER WHO FEELS INSULTED AND BETRAYED BY THEIR PARTNER 07:38, 03 Jun 2025Updated 10:04, 03

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[email protected]. Please note that Jane cannot respond to individual letters and not all problems will be published. I WANT TO MAKE HER LIFE HELL I’m beautiful. There. I’ve said it.

I’ve got a great body, fantastic hair and sparkling personality. All the guys at work fancy me and two have admitted that they fantasise about having sex with ME while making love to their

girlfriends. Praise indeed. Right? So, why has my ungrateful, pig of an ex-boyfriend gone off with a woman who is old enough to be my mum? Back in March he told me he was leaving me because

his dad had cancer. He sobbed that he was moving back to his hometown to care for him. A lie. Article continues below He is actually living five streets away from me with a divorcee he met

on the Internet. I feel insulted and want revenge. I know where her house is and have thought about smashing up her car, tipping rubbish on her doorstep and throwing the dead rats from my

Uncle’s farm over her garden fence. Why shouldn’t I cause havoc when he’s humiliated me and broken my heart? I’m a catch. I’m golden. Yet he’s chosen to lie to me and that hurts. He bleats

that he met her ‘by accident’ online. He reckons he was helping a mate to look for love when SHE (Maleficent) popped up and they just clicked. Yeah. Right. He’s 32 and she’s over 55. The

other day I stalked him out and ‘bumped’ into him in the street. He asked me to leave him alone. He said that he’s never been happier and she’s everything he’s ever wanted in a woman. How

can that be? I’ve seen this old chancer and she’s nothing compared to me. How am I supposed to face the world or move on? _JANE SAYS: FIRST THING FIRST. DO NOT, I REPEAT, DO NOT EVEN THINK

ABOUT ANY FORM OF REVENGE. SMASHING UP YOUR EX-BOYFRIEND’S CAR OR THROWING DEAD RATS INTO HIS NEW LOVER’S GARDEN MAY SEEM LIKE A BRILLIANT IDEA, BUT IT’S NOT, IT’S STUPID AND BENEATH YOU._

_DON’T WASTE YOUR TIME OR ENERGY TRYING TO MAKE SENSE OF THIS SAD SITUATION. THE REALITY IS THAT YOUR PARTNER HAS LEFT YOU FOR ANOTHER WOMAN. HE’S NOW CLAIMING TO BE SETTLED AND HAPPY. IT

DOESN’T MATTER HOW OLD SHE IS, WHAT SHE DOES FOR A LIVING OR WHAT SHE’S AFTER BECAUSE HE’S MADE HIS CHOICE. YOU HAVE TO LOOK AT THE POSITIVE SIDE; AND THAT IS YOU’RE NOW FREE TO LIVE YOUR

LIFE ANY WAY YOU CHOOSE. MAKE PLANS, SET YOURSELF TARGETS AND DON’T LOOK BACK. THERE’S NO DENYING THAT YOU HAVE A VERY HIGH OPINION OF YOURSELF. YOU CONSIDER YOURSELF BEAUTIFUL AND SOMETHING

OF A CATCH AND THAT’S FINE, BUT HE IS AN INDIVIDUAL AND ENTITLED TO LOVE WHOEVER HE FANCIES._ _CLEARLY YOU AND HE WEREN’T MEANT TO GO THE DISTANCE, OR YOU’D STILL BE TOGETHER._ _I AGREE

THAT IT WAS WRONG OF HIM TO LIE ABOUT HIS FATHER HAVING CANCER. THAT WAS A LOW MOVE. A SERIOUS, LIFE-THREATENING ILLNESS IS NEVER SOMETHING THAT SHOULD BE USED AS A CHEAP EXCUSE. MAYBE THAT

TELLS YOU ALL YOU REALLY NEED TO KNOW ABOUT HIM…_ _LET HIM GO AND, BY DOING SO, FREE YOURSELF OF ANXIETY, CURIOSITY AND STRESS. STOP STALKING HIM, STOP LOOKING FOR ANSWERS AND START FLYING._

HE LIKES ME TO DANCE FOR HIM My new boyfriend likes me to put on sexy shows for his guests. I’m a dancer and aspiring model. He’s a rich guy who holds lavish parties at his house with

expensive food and booze. Often, he’ll say: “Come and dance for us” and I feel obliged to strip off down to my undies and put on a sexy show, which can be a bit embarrassing in an intimate

space. Admittedly his guests are very generous and show their appreciation (with tips), but I’m worried about what’s next. A couple of the guys my fella does business with are very

complimentary towards me. Will my guy expect me to have sex with them in order to seal deals? I sister says I’m in over my head. Is she right? _JANE SAYS: THE BOTTOM LINE IS THAT YOU DON’T

REALLY KNOW THE KIND OF PEOPLE YOU ARE DEALING WITH. I’M SURE THAT YOUR BOYFRIEND CAN BE VERY PERSUASIVE AND CHARMING WHEN HE WANTS TO BE, BUT YOU CAN’T BE BLINDED BY COMPLIMENTS AND CASH

TIPS. WHAT ABOUT YOUR SELF-RESPECT AND PERSONAL SAFETY?_ _AS YOU SO RIGHTLY SAY; WHAT MIGHT HE HAVE IN MIND FOR YOUR NEXT. ULTIMATELY, IF THIS SITUATION DOESN’T FEEL RIGHT; IF YOU DON’T LIKE

THE DIRECTION OF TRAFFIC, THEN GET OUT NOW. YOU’RE NOT HIS PERFORMING PUPPET AND NOTHING GIVES HIM THE RIGHT TO CONTROL OR HUMILIATE YOU._ SHE'S PROUD OF HER FLING My girl is still

bragging about a fling she conducted last Christmas. I feel insulted and let down. Her mate tells me that every time they go out together, my girl relives the three months she spent in

another guy’s arms. She gloats about the sneaking around and the dirty bonks. The mate insists my girl is still obsessed with her ex-lover even though she told me she’s ashamed of herself

and regrets letting me down. What’s to be done? I love my girl, but I can’t have her humiliating me by gushing about another fella behind my back. _JANE SAYS: PRESUMABLY YOU TRUST YOUR

GIRL’S MATE AND BELIEVE EVERYTHING SHE SAYS? ARE YOU ABSOLUTELY SURE SHE’S NOT STIRRING THINGS UP AND CAUSING TROUBLE? IF YOU ARE, THEN YOU HAVE NO OPTION BUT TO SPEAK TO YOUR GIRL ABOUT

WHAT’S GOING ON INSIDE HER MIND. IS SHE STILL OBSESSED WITH HER EX? WHY DOES SHE KEEP TALKING ABOUT HIM AND RELIVING THE MOMENTS THEY SPENT TOGETHER? HOW DOES SHE EXPECT YOU TO MOVE ON WHEN

HER HEAD IS STILL IN THE PAST? SHE NEEDS TO UNDERSTAND THAT YOU ARE NOT MADE OF STONE AND IF SHE STILL HAS FEELINGS FOR ANOTHER GUY THEN YOU NEED TO KNOW WHERE YOU STAND._ Article continues

below I'M AGAINST A BED IN OUR SHED My daughter wants her boyfriend to crash in our shed. He’s 17 and has been thrown out by his parents for smoking weed and shoplifting. Our shed is

basic and barely habitable. I don’t want him here but she’s nagging and crying and making my life a misery. Help. _JANE SAYS: WILL HE ALSO SMOKE JOINTS IN YOUR SHED AND SHOPLIFT FROM YOUR

LOCAL STORES? SADLY, IF YOU DON’T LIKE THE GUY AND DON’T WANT HIM NEAR THEN YOU MUST STAND YOUR GROUND AND TELL YOUR GIRL ‘NO’. BESIDES, IF YOU GIVE HIM AN INCH, THEN SURELY, HE’LL ALWAYS BE

IN YOUR HOUSE, EATING YOUR FOOD AND USING YOUR SHOWER? DON’T BEND TO PRESSURE. YOUR DAUGHTER MAY WANT ALL SORTS OF THINGS, BUT YOU’RE NOT OBLIGED TO INDULGE HER._